My Relationship with Technology
I'm sorry, but I have to do it. I have to vent about the negative side of technology from a teenagers perspective. But, I'm pinning most of the blame on Generation X, the generation who irresponsibly uses technology daily and passes these traits on to their children. My dissociation with posting on social media started from a young age in which my mother would zoom in on any picture someone posted and highlight things she sought out as insecurities. Due to this, I limit photos that are taken of me and for my dad's annual birthday post, I send him pictures that I have deemed okay to post. After that comes the dependency on technology in which I would attempt to have a conversation with my mom, only to be ignored as she swiped through her phone. I believe that teenagers unhealthy relationship with technology, truly starts at home.
Parents also resort to cyberbullying tactics as well in order to teach their child a lesson. For example, forcing children to receive ill haircuts, telling the world embarrassing stories, and using the child's own account to embarrass them. If children see their own parents bully, why would a child think it's not okay? A recent example of this in the media, is Aubrey Wyatt's story. The 13 year-old from Mississippi, who alived herself as a result of cyberbullying. The parents of the bullies decided to sue the mom of Aubrey Wyatt for spreading awareness, and take away her social media platform. Instances, such as this one set a precedent for children to believe that behavior such as this, is okay and that they can get away with it.
Studies show that the average American now receives a smartphone at the age of 11, and the age is expected to drop over the next couple of years. This means that the average 5th grader receives access to the internet without critical-thinking skills or the knowledge of the start of their digital tattoo. Or should I say the delayed start? By the age of 11, children most likely have already been posted online by their parents. For example, Sonia Bokhari, was deeply hurt by the digital tattoo that was started of her before she even got a say.
On top of this, the divide between parenting at home and expectations at school continues to grow. Parents refusal to work with teachers on the topic of technology results in ill impulse control and inappropriate usage. For example, children refusing to use technology to do schoolwork and instead using it to play games during class. Or on the other hand, the lack of work ethic that is instilled at home that results in students using ChatGPT to do schoolwork instead. I seriously think my dad would kill me if I failed a course because I decided to use AI to do my work instead of doing it myself.
As far as my personal relationship with technology, I use it in a responsible and reasonable manner. I am able to disengage with my devices in order to have a technology-free lunch/dinner with my friends or family. I also exercise caution in what I post on my socials and they're all set to private with a limited amount of personal information. I balance my use of technology between educational platforms as well as just for fun. As an international relations major, it's vitally important for me to be aware of what is happening in the United States as well as in other countries. But as a 18-year old, I also love using technology to connect with friends and stay up to date on new trends.
Am I entirely blaming parents for children's ill decisions? Absolutely not. After a certain point, responsibility falls on the child to take responsibility for their actions. For example, the recent raise the age law in which 16-year olds can be tried as adults for certain crimes. 15 and a 1/2 year olds are allowed to complete drivers education and register to vote. If they're responsible enough to operate a motor vehicle, they should be responsible enough to manage their relationship with technology. But, this all starts at home. So, before shoving your 2-year old in front of the TV for educational time or publicly humiliating your child, maybe take the time to think about the behavior you're modeling for them.